Match.com this weekend. After two months of paying $1.16 per day to be able to freely contact other electronic-dating-minded individuals, I've learned a lot, both about myself and what's out there. I figure I've gotten my money's worth out of it, with three dinner dates paid for by my Match dates (that sounds horrible, doesn't it? Go ahead, you can say it), but I really feel disappointed in my investment. Too bad I didn't do the money back guarantee, but I would have had to commit to six months of this silliness and I probably would have been sticking pencils into my eye sockets by that point.
Maybe two months isn't long enough to give Match it's fair shot, but I'm tired and bored. When you cancel your membership, the wise internet programmers ask you why you are leaving their online meat market. Although I don't think there is an option for "All my matches were boring," I wonder if I can write it in. The next question to ponder is how I wrap things up with the gentlemen that I'm currently (and seemingly unceasingly) corresponding with via email. Do I email them to let them know that I'm skipping town with outside-of-Match.com contact information? I'm thinking that several of them aren't going to make any moves on their own, so my disappearance probably won't cause them to lose any sleep. But, I'd hate to miss the chance of meeting someone just because I'm cheap, I mean bored with Match.
On a friend's suggestion (who had another friend meet someone relatively decent), I checked out Plentyoffish.com yesterday. They credit themselves as the largest online dating website in the world (wait, I thought Match said that too?) and are completely free. There aren't even any catches like Zoosk, this is absolutely, 100% free of charge. I set up the quick profile which, amazingly, allowed me to stipulate who I wanted to hear from. For example, you aren't allowed to contact me on Plentyoffish.com if you have ever contacted someone who is interested in one-night-stands. Apparently, you can be on there looking for that and openly admit it, but keep on moving if that's your primary goal. This little tidbit should have been a red flag for me, but you all know how oblivious I tend to be to such giant notifications of impending doom.
So, the paradox of my dating life is this: the men are either coming on too strong, almost suggesting that they wed and bed me within the first 24 hours of contact (and electronic contact at that) or they are afraid of the spoken word and hide quietly behind their computer monitors. At this point, I'm seriously thinking that anyone who has met a significant other from an online source and made it past the first date/one night stand has either amazing, divine-intervention type luck or just doesn't have a problem with poor communication or lack of interest.
red flag? Maybe, with my track record!) and as the topic continued to build, he finally made reference to us going to a game. Success!...or so I thought. Not wanting to seem overly zealous, I asked him if there was a particular team that he'd like to see the Braves play coming up in their schedule, hoping he'd pick a day and we could meet. He said "Anyone but the Mets" and continued to chat...without committing. Urgh! What am I doing wrong here? I tried the "going in for the kill" style of being the aggressor, asking them out, picking the location/time/day/etc. That didn't work. Now, I'm trying the more subtle approach of waiting to be asked and all I get are more emails. What, pray tell, am I doing wrong?