So, let's say, hypothetically, you meet someone new for a "blind" date. The quotation marks shall imply that you have previously seen a photograph...keep reading to find out why that is an integral part of this post at this point. You go into the situation with no expectations (remember?...we talked about that) and no preconceived judgments. You're a blank slate, waiting for someone to scribble out their pros and cons, in a nice orderly list of course, so that you can make a judgment call as to whether or not this person is worthy of receiving more of your time and attention.
Let's further say, first, that this person has absolutely no "wow factor" nor does he/she inspire feelings of impending doom. You don't want to rush to the bathroom and call your best friend to say "Oh my gosh, he/she could be The One," nor do you want to run from the restaurant screeching for the nearest cop to come rescue you from what will surely turn out to be the plot of the next great Lifetime movie. He/She was just kind of...vanilla. Personality wise.
Okay, now let's switch gears. What if there is absolutely no physical attraction? What if you sat through the entire "date" (wow, lots of quotation marks in this one...maybe that says something about my life) wondering if you could possibly ever be physically attracted to this person? Now, I know I am going to get my hand slapped on this one. Especially since I am no Playboy model myself, but I feel as though I should at least think that my partner is attractive. Even if it's the "He's so cute in a (nerdy),(dorky),(goofy) sort of way." And I know that I'm going to get some responses insisting that I give it time, get to know him, blah blah blah. But even if there wasn't so much as one redeeming attractive quality? At all? I mean, nothing, people. Nothing. I know in just the couple of hours I sat with him that he is a very nice guy. I know that he was nervous, which surprisingly made me less nervous. There just wasn't really anything...anything to describe or want more details about to inspire another meeting.
How long do you think is the appropriate time to spend with someone before you just chalk it up to a lack of attraction? How important is physical attraction, in all honesty? I know that we all walk around with our politically correct responses of "it's what's inside that counts," and I do agree with that sentiment. If you look like Bradley Cooper but have the personality of a dead leaf, then eventually, your chiseled, perfect looks aren't going to cut it. Eventually. We might have a lot of fun for a while, and I know I'd truly enjoy showing you off to every girl in high school who looked down her nose at me, but a lifetime connection...probably not. On the other hand, if you're cute and have a great personality and keep me laughing and have some interesting qualities, I will think you're gorgeous within a matter of days. I can actually prove that in my history of interests.
[Random interjected sidenote: I almost forgot I was going to explain to you the quotation marks around the word blind above. Ah-hem. Let me see how to put this mildy. These guys are deceiving. I don't know how they're doing it, but they are managing to somehow post pictures of themselves that look only moderately similar to how they actually look, and that's a stretch. I'll be honest, my pictures are selected based on how I feel I look in them. Obviously, I'm not going to post the one from Christmas morning in my new snowman pajamas with my hair in a ponytail and a makeup-less face. But, I look like my pictures. These gentlemen, uh, do not. Done with sidenote.]
Here's the most important part of this post, and I am completely serious when I say that I want responses, comments, critiques, insults, compliments, whatever you're inspired to share with me after reading this question. Without caving to the socially expected response, how many times would you go out with someone that you felt no physical attraction to upon meeting?