Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Taking Back Our Princess-Status
Recalling my recent post about chivalry, I couldn't help but stick my two cents in. "You mean to tell me that the only gentlemen left in this world are lesbians?!," I announced in disappointment. Surely the world was not so bleak for us hetero gals! After the initial laughter waned (you know, I fancy myself an amateur comic with my one-liners) I contemplated this statement in my usual overanalyzing style. Had we reached the point where men no longer stopped to help a damsel in distress? Why? Have women pushed men away from being the knight in shining armor with pro-feminine sentiments? Has the "I can do anything you can do better" saying permeated our culture to this extreme? I hoped not.
I decided instead of being Debbie Downer and catching all the times that men disappointed me with their lack of chivalry, I would mentally note all the times that they were just the opposite and am happy to announce that I've been pleasantly surprised and impressed. There ARE still gentlemen out there; men who walk a couple of steps faster to dart ahead and hold doors open for women to enter first; men who offer to hold our stuff (and if you meet me, you'll realize in minutes that I come with a lot of paraphernalia) while in lines at cafeteria counters so we don't have to balance trays, cups, plates, purses, wallets, computer bags, etc.; men who walk you to the door and make sure you get in okay before leaving; men with a cart full of groceries who step back in line to let us go first when we're only satisfying a late night ice cream craving with a pint of Ben & Jerry's.
Now, don't rush to call me out about men who are in fact and in action belittling to women; I know they exist and I've been in their company. The only guy I've almost ever slugged in my life sat in a room full of women in my college dorm room and announced that he completely believed in the "barefoot and pregnant" philosophy and fully expected his future wife (I thought "good luck" but amazingly, he's married now) to go along with the idea of simply being the housekeeper and the childbearer. Before this statement, he was pursuing one of my suitemates. That ended quickly. But, I think there are more true gentlemen out there than there are this kind of creep. We need to relax and be appreciative of these little things that should make us feel special or at least noticed for the wonderful women that we are. We need to become comfortable with taking back our princess-status and be thankful that there are men who believe that treating a woman with extra care and attention isn't intended to demean her but to promote and flatter her.