tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post2821237263885340641..comments2023-10-29T03:51:23.280-04:00Comments on Lost in Singledom: Death by TextingMelaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12126555286862036114noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-48019546170406803752010-07-09T11:32:18.307-04:002010-07-09T11:32:18.307-04:00I can't tell you how many times I've been ...I can't tell you how many times I've been online dating in the last, eh, seven years. Literally...I can't count. I keep "giving it one more try" and then get frustrated and figure I could put that money to good use, like a new pair of shoes once a month or something! But, I do agree with you about the karmic pattern. I wonder if the old rules of dating are gone with the Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12126555286862036114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-77566267158383478342010-07-07T18:13:04.037-04:002010-07-07T18:13:04.037-04:00OMG, you totally identified the two major reasons ...OMG, you totally identified the two major reasons why I struggle with internet dating! I *hate* the never-ending cycle of email - there's just not that much to say when you've never met someone, and then the relationship just trickles out before you even had a chance (ie, before you ever met). And I worry that if I take the initiative, I'm upsetting some great karmic rule/seeming Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-81250332342712233652010-07-07T08:41:13.068-04:002010-07-07T08:41:13.068-04:00Thanks, everybody, for your advice and wisdom! La...Thanks, everybody, for your advice and wisdom! Last yesterday afternoon, I did email Mr. Too Many Words and Mr. Baggage, following your advice and kind of giving them an ultimatum: I want to meet, if you don't, then we should move on, basically. I think we're each doing the other a disservice if we don't plan to meet considering that we're paying for an online dating service TOMelaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12126555286862036114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-9786949888484459132010-07-07T00:05:39.321-04:002010-07-07T00:05:39.321-04:00You don't even have to say why you want to dat...You don't even have to say why you want to date them; just suggest a specific time and place to meet and see how they respond. I think that by inviting them out will let them know that you're interested. <br />But it can be frustrating when the guys won't get up the courage to meet in person. Last year when I was on okcupid, this guy sent me 10 or 12 e-mails but was always very vague Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-18171020878982675292010-07-06T23:04:27.778-04:002010-07-06T23:04:27.778-04:00I would just email them, like you said. Go for it...I would just email them, like you said. Go for it. What do you have to lose? Bottom line, if they decide not to meet when asked to, then cut the ties and you've lost nothing but more wasted time. Why invest more time with anyone if you don't know if its going anywhere? In my experience, men don't make any gestures unless they feel they have to. Just tell each guy that you would I'm Erin.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04350842489769229254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-84689838425490869482010-07-06T17:23:47.663-04:002010-07-06T17:23:47.663-04:00I think I would just keep looking in the sea to se...I think I would just keep looking in the sea to see what's out there, and just let the 3 do all the work of communicating. Eventually they'll get the hint or you can just brush them off.I think they should be taking some initiative. Sure a few back and forths are great to see if this might be someone you want to mean; however, incessant texting makes you eel like you are spiraling in a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-10504468645113904672010-07-06T14:15:14.095-04:002010-07-06T14:15:14.095-04:00This is what I see. For one, it is hard for peopl...This is what I see. For one, it is hard for people to get out and date. Being one, who has tried online dating techniques, I met a whole lot of crazies. To be honest, because I met so many crazies, I did tend to be reserve when talking to people, because you never know what yo might get. It might be for them that they are trying to be cautious about what is being said. In spite of all of Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01288943205035146841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-632303676302577456.post-37509302191006573152010-07-06T10:42:16.096-04:002010-07-06T10:42:16.096-04:00It sounds like you're having to work way too h...It sounds like you're having to work way too hard to maintain these relationships! Each of these gentlemen should be putting forth some effort to keep you interested if they are indeed hoping to start a relationship online. When Dave and I first started emailing back and forth, some of our first emails were long rambling missives about our likes and dislikes that generated more conversationKassia525https://www.blogger.com/profile/03927266436972970376noreply@blogger.com